It’s Time To Close Those Suicide Doors

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Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US. Each 42,773 Americans die by suicide. On average there are 117 suicides per day.

“Thou Suicide is a Solitary act the causes have links to various social factors”
-Emile Durkheim

If there is anything I have learned in life it is that even when if we may have similar experiences we may perceive and take them on differently. You and I can both go to the ER with the flu and have totally different symptoms that would indicate that our results would be different. As they say never judge a book by it’s cover. I believe that is the issue with our suicide epidemic in the United States. It’s been generalized to certain symptoms when that is not always the case.

For example, I’m a pretty chipper person for the most part. I smile a great deal. I have even been a listening ear and advocate for others contemplating suicide but I’ve contemplated suicide and even attempted a few more times than I am comfortable admitting in that people who know had no clue. The thing that has held me back from successful suicide was fear of hurting my family, and later I grew to fight depression with sword of the spirit which is the word of God. That is not to say that I don’t  still struggle. Life has come at me hard in the past few years and though the last time I came close to attempting was when I was eighteen I was tried again as a result of certain issues taking a toll on me.

Do my own testimonials make me an expert on suicide prevention? no, not by a long shot. Here’s what it does. it lets anyone reading this that has been there or that is in that place know that they are not alone. I just want to have a conversation with you. There are all sorts of “suicide doors” big ones, scary ones, hard ones, and tall ones. They seem so high you can’t get over them and kick you so low you can’t get under them. The mess is so wide that you cannot get around it. What I would say to that is there is help.

There is a lack of light shed on these issues in our communities, emphasis on the black community, even further more in the Christian community we have food banks/drives, we have fish fries, we have back to school give aways and so forth and so on but I will say that coming from where I’m from we don’t get straight up discussion with individuals/teens on self harm, depression and suicidal thoughts and though this discussion is geared toward suicide prevention month I’d like to point out that once a year is not enough. Suicide rates are highest in the spring time. The most triumphant we get into the discussion is whether suicide is a sin or not and my unpopular opinion on that is that it doesn’t matter all that much if we actually talk about the issue. Think about it. Does merely knowing that fornication alone stop fornication.. or any sin for that matter? It may be a part of the vocation, but it is not always enough. We need others to remind us sometimes that it’s not worth it. We need strength sometimes. So why don’t we give that to those with these issues?

Perhaps the general reasoning may be that we don’t know what to say, or that we feel that we will make things worse. I mentioned earlier that though I’m a great listener and give wholesome advice by the grace of God that I’m well experienced with depression, both mental and physical self harm and suicidal thoughts/ attempts. There are two things that could cant a person like me out for the commission I’m opening up to social media which are “how you gone win when you ain’t right with in?” haha. if you don’t get what that means then plainly “how do I help people struggling with what I’m struggling with myself? maybe that is why you feel some way about speaking
on these matters. I hid my struggles for a long time because of fear of being asked these questions. The fact of the matter is that someone struggling can help someone struggling in the same matter get through better than another sometimes. we need to be more vocal.
We can make a difference if we set out too.

wf

-Sharing on Social media gives us access to millions of people. We often complain about our peers venting on social media, but we do not know if that person actually does have an avenue of venting. Social helps just as well as in some opinion in may hurt in many ways if one doesn’t have other means of venting.

The ways social media helps :
-Coping and responding to tragedy
-Offering Charity to those In Need
-New Lines of Communication
-Reuniting
-Sharing Positivity
-Sharing Hope And Courage

This is why I want us do the least we can do with the #SuicideDoorsConversation.
I’m not asking you to teach a seminar or anything I’m simply asking you to acknowledge this issue next month. I’m simply asking you to share that hope and courage with fan signs,  the hashtag and whatever you are lead to do. Social media helped me to grow into my own skin and love it. If it hadn’t met some of the people I’ve met on social media who knows if I’d be here but God saw fit to keep me. So next month you may not save a life but you may.

wf

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