Fix My Vent

I’ve heard a lot of things said about venting. How to vent. When to vent. When not to vent. I’ve even heard it said “Christians shouldn’t vent.” I’m not here to veto anyone’s strategy wfof living if it works. However if it doesn’t I’m here to help you explore what may work.

For me I’ve never really been able to open to many people for a lot of reasons. With my SB i’m incontinent so i can literally count on one hand the friends I was able to be fully comfortable around. (Not that I have friends haha) I was always super self contious about my bladder issues. I didnt grow up around oothers who were going through some of the things I was so there were points I didn’t connect to anyone on and I do believe had I had a friend or two with the same issues I wouldn’t be as insecure about that and other things concerning myself. I often just felt like I was behind or just not on my age level haha.
Now that I’m adultish I’m more able to cope with some of these things (Barely😂) now that I have come one or two of the Strangers like me 🎶 but I do still wonder if my husband is game for all of it. Are you strong enought to be my man? 🎶

For these reasons I believe we should be able to talk to one another.  After all in the abundance of counsel is safety,no?

so whom is safe and who ain’t?
Unfortunately we learn the answer through trial and error.

wfYOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are times also that people just wont get it because they haven’t experienced certain things and that may result in them being just a tad judgemental(or a whole bunch). So should christains vent? Why or why not?

I’m a person who is told I give great advice but no matter who believes I “always know what to say” there is only one all knowing Father . while others are definitely well able to encourages us with their words and even their lives but there is only so much we can do for one another.


Why is it that we are so afraid to do this? In the opinion of many individuals it is pretty much to pray from the abundance of ones complaint as sister Hannah did back in the day. As for me being one who wrestles depression on a regular basis I find that being able to lament in prayer and worship is a major key.

“It seems to me that we do not need to be taught how to lament since we have so many models in Scripture. What we need is simply the assurance that it’s okay to lament. “We all carry deep within ourselves a pressurized reservoir of tears. It takes only the right key at the right time to unlock them. In God’s perfect time, these tears can be released to form a healing flood. That’s the beauty and the mystery of the prayer of lament.” – Michael Card

“Lamentation is a powerful, and meaningful, form of worship because it places our love for God above even the worst of circumstances in our life… God does not ask us to deny the existence of our suffering. He does want us to collect it, stand in those things and make Him an offering. The Holy Spirit, our Comforter, helps us to do this: He aligns Himself with our will and says, ‘I will help you to will to worship God.’ The glory of the majesty of God is that He helps us will and do.” -Graham Cooke

I’m not trying to preach I’m just trying to make sense.
as always interdependents,

As I minister to you
I minister to myself.



  1. Author Brandi Kennedy on January 26, 2017 at 9:56 pm

    I seriously got goosebumps reading that Michael Card quote. What a reassuring thing to encounter – the idea that lamentation is not a bad thing. And then to follow with the Graham Cooke quote … Wow. I love your application of both quotes, as well as the concept of the healing nature of lamenting prayer, to your own personal struggles, too.

    • whitneyann on January 26, 2017 at 11:49 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m so glad you enjoyed those quotes the way I did!

  2. Aish Das-Padihari on January 26, 2017 at 11:04 pm

    I always vent in front of people who knows me and don’t judge me. I have had some bad experiences with venting in front of people who take it to another level. Venting is good and can help yu only if you know your audience well.

    • whitneyann on January 26, 2017 at 11:49 pm


  3. Amber Myers on January 27, 2017 at 12:41 am

    I know venting helps me out. I vent on my blog and when I see I’m not alone in my feelings, it makes me feel pretty good. That I’m not alone.

    • whitneyann on January 27, 2017 at 12:56 am


  4. Lauren on January 27, 2017 at 12:54 am

    I love how you say that God is not looking for us to run away from our struggles, but to own them and bring them to the table. Whether you are religious or not, it is important to take your adversities, be aware of them and use them to progress.

    • whitneyann on January 27, 2017 at 12:59 am

      exactly! I am glad you enjoyed reading!

  5. Jessica Taylor on January 27, 2017 at 1:49 am

    I always try to vent. Holding in anger can be horrible.

  6. Sarah-Louise Bailey on January 27, 2017 at 7:36 am

    I do venting on paper. Writing can be a good alternative to verbal venting because it can give me a better understanding of the cause of my feelings, and it is the safest way I think and it gives me a greater feeling of control.

    • whitneyann on January 27, 2017 at 8:35 pm

      I agree! writing is great! Poetry was one of my first avenues of venting.

  7. Elizabeth O. on January 27, 2017 at 10:20 am

    I don’t like keeping my feelings bottled up and I usually find a way to vent that won’t affect the people in my life. I sometimes write my thoughts when I’m not really in the mood to talk. It’s sort of like my therapy.

    • whitneyann on January 27, 2017 at 8:36 pm

      Writing is a great way to let things out without being interrupted. Poetry was my first avenue of venting.

  8. Kristina on January 27, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    I should tell certain people I know to Vent to God. It makes sense. It would weed out the people who don’t want to listen and it would Make them less over exposed.

  9. Samantha on January 28, 2017 at 4:54 am

    Everyone needs a good vent. Get it out and move on!

  10. katrina gehman on January 28, 2017 at 6:19 am

    we all need to vent sometimes. let it out, as it sometimes helps you feel better

  11. Jennifer on January 31, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    I love Michael Card. I heard him in concert once. Its been too many years. Thanks for sharing!

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